Often we hear people talk to us about nurturing our Inner Child, or how someone is treating themselves to something because they “deserve” it or have “earned” it. But I listen to my Inner Child, and he keeps wanting things like electronic toys (which are expensive), sugary treats (which are unhealthy), fattening food (again, unhealthy), or he just wants to sit around and play without doing anything productive.
If listening to your Inner Child has become catering to his/her every whim, then you have an Inner Brat. It’s time for your Inner Parent to take control again. No video games til the chores are done, no treats between meals, and no frivolous spending or irresponsible behavior.
I’ve realized that my Inner Child is a spoiled rotten little brat in need of a good spanking. I’m sure many of you can relate. We’re told to cater to our Inner Child because we were deprived of something in childhood, or we were abused, or otherwise unhappy as children and that to be happy adults we need to nurture our Inner Child. I recognize that my Inner Child represents my emotional self, and that it’s healthy to listen to him, however I think in general we go too far.
Your Inner Parent must be in control of your life. The Brat shouldn’t be in charge, because that’s a sure path towards your own self destruction. So let’s stop “rewarding” ourselves with things that aren’t good for us. Be your own parent, and get your Inner Brat under control. Do the chores, clean the house, exercise both your body and your mind, and revel in the tasty healthy food choices that keep your body functioning at peak efficiency. It’s a lot easier to have a rewarding spiritual path when the body you live in is healthy, or at least as healthy as you can make it.
I’m not saying we should neglect our Inner Child, continue to listen, but for goodness’ sake take away the car keys and put your Inner Parent back in control of your life!